Welcome to Scared Confident
A show that seeks to honestly examine the vulnerable realities of a life with many roles. This is an unpolished space to learn what it means to face our fear and live life scared confident.
Trailer: I am Scared Confident
You know how sometimes you're afraid to do something, but you do it anyway? That is what Scared Confident is all about. We all are asked to do things we're afraid of and if we allow that first fear to be the thing that stops us, then we will never be able to grant ourselves the life that we all dream up.
I'm Tiffany Sauder. I'm an entrepreneur, speaker, wife, and mother of four.
I've set out to start this podcast, Scared Confident as a way of sharing, dissecting and reflecting on some hard-earned life lessons. This wild life of a two-career home, working mom and perpetual dreamer is a wonderful and messy one - and it’s not without loud fears and insecurities.
Yet, what I've come to understand is that fear is an incredibly selfish posture. Fear focuses on self. What will people think of me? What will people say? What are people's expectations of me? It's inward.
Scared Confident is about breaking through fear. It’s about a life that chooses living for others and not for self. A life that seeks impact and significance. A life that is focused and sure and determined.
By launching this show, I’m sharing my journey of using fear as a green light to push forward instead of letting it stop me. For when we have the courage to stare down fear, we more clearly see the world and people we were made to impact.
I don't know it all, but I'm an open book, ready and willing to help you embrace life scared confidently. If you want a lot out of life, as I do, then this show will help you quiet the voice of fear and run completely after your dreams.
Getting intentional with gratitude
On this week's solo episode, Tiffany is taking time to pause in the midst of this crazy holiday week and reflect on 10 things she's grateful for. And, she's helping you create space to do the same.
Coffee Over Microphones: Vision casting advice for a young agency owner with Andy Mork
When someone asks Tiffany to coffee, she asks to do it on the mic. In this coffee over microphones chat, Andy Mork seeks out Tiffany’s advice on vision casting for his young business. Andy’s videography agency is in a comfortable spot, and Andy is unsure how (or if) he wants to scale. Tiffany helps him vision cast for himself and the business, and reflect on his own fears that may be holding him back.
Should I have said "no" to this?
In this solo show, Tiffany takes a beat to reflect after a jam-packed six-week sprint in the Sauder household. Between Tiffany and her husband’s hectic travel schedule, sick kiddos, and seemingly never-ending house construction projects, Tiffany has learned a lot about her own “minimums”—and what happens when she lets go of them in busy seasons.
Overcoming fear with vulnerability with Marriage and Family Therapist, Nathaniel McGuire
Tiffany has noticed a trend lately—a link between vulnerability and fear. She’s been exploring this link over the course of the past few episodes of Scared Confident, and now she wants to bring a past guest back who was pivotal in her own journey with fear -- Marriage and Family Therapist, Nathaniel McGuire.
How to prioritize movement with LYT Yoga’s Lara Heimann
No matter what stage or phase of life you’re currently in, Lara Heimann passionately believes that there is always space for movement. Lara is the creator of the LYT Yoga Method as well as the host of her podcast, Redefining Yoga. In this conversation with Tiffany, Lara shares her journey in founding and building LYT yoga’s online platform, as well as her practical tips for how you can prioritize and realize your movement goals—no matter where you’re starting from.
Coffee Over Microphones: Advice for a young mom and business owner with Ashley Monk
When someone asks Tiffany to coffee, she asks to do it on the mic. In this coffee over microphones chat, Ashley Monk brings Tiffany her questions about sustainably scaling her young business, being a new mom, and balancing her big ideas with the pragmatism required to lead a company.
Why do you avoid vulnerability?
Tiffany takes to the mic in her first solo show of the season, a new format where it’s just Tiffany and the mic—no prompt, no producer, all her. In this episode, Tiffany is reflecting on vulnerability and how she’s found an unexpected connection between fear and vulnerability in her own life.
A life-saving act of vulnerability with Carlie Oakley
There is always a hidden cost when you choose isolation over vulnerability: Relationships that don’t deepen; opportunities that pass by; wounds that aren’t healed. For Carlie Oakley, her decision to be radically vulnerable ultimately saved her life and changed her perspective.
The First 17 Years: Epilogue (And, what comes next…)
As Tiffany closes this chapter of reflection on the last 17 years of her life and career, she begins to think ahead to the next one…and what that means for Scared Confident.
The First 17 Years: Never go alone with Sarah Riggio, Darren Halbig, & Danielle Falconer
In this final episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany introduces you to three key members of her executive team: Sarah Riggio, Darren Halbig, and Danielle Falconer. Each have challenged her, pushed back against her, and helped not only take Element Three to its next phase of growth—but Tiffany, too. Listen in for an intimate look at what it’s like to build a team who pushes you to become better every day.
The First 17 Years: A life of fierce accountability and discipline with Mike Keleher
In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany reflects on how retired President and CEO of Royal United, Mike Keleher, impacted both Element Three and her personally. Dive into Mike’s “fanatic discipline,” and learn how you can harness the power of your own discipline to create a sustainable life you love, no matter your circumstances.
The First 17 Years: You reveal what you know by the questions you ask with Brian Kavicky
In this emotional episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany takes a look back at her relationship with Brian Kavicky, her sales coach and mentor. Through living out his own ethos of “do right always and give first,” he taught Tiffany that a profession in sales can be fulfilling, impactful, and genuine. Listen in as Brian and Tiffany reminisce on a big discovery that led Tiffany to realize that it was time to truly become “scared confident”.
The First 17 Years: Finding mentors in unexpected places with Jack Burns and Tony Reisz
In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany recounts the ripple effect of having clients who turn into mentors—even if they fire you. Listen to hear perspectives from Jack and Tony as they reminisce on their motivations behind offering their time and friendship to a young Tiffany. In what was a critical time in Element Three’s growth, unexpected mentorship changed the course of Tiffany’s life.
The First 17 Years: The power of a first follower with Karen Seketa
Karen Seketa, VP of Talent at Element Three, is a leader who develops leaders, and she taught Tiffany the importance of serving people first. In this episode of The First 17 Years, Tiffany shares the moment she asked Karen to take the risk without a clear job description, way to pay her, or true vision of what she’d be doing. It was Karen’s leap of faith that made all the difference.
The First 17 Years: Building our family while growing a business with the Hubs, J.R. Sauder
J.R. is steady and long-term, and he understands Tiffany’s need to fulfill the dreams inside her. In this episode of the First 17 Years, Tiffany and J.R. give a glimpse into the early days of building Element Three while growing their family. There were several fork-in-the-road moments both personally and professionally, begging the question: Was it all worth it?
The First 17 Years: Mastering the art of creative discipline with Marcia Stone
The calling of lifelong mentorship is one that can change a young woman’s life. In Tiffany’s case, the mentor who stuck with her through every twist and turn of her business and personal journey is one she couldn’t imagine her life without.
The First 17 Years: The reward of discovering your talents. Thanks, Mom and Dad
In this episode, we hear John and Wendy reminisce on growing a business while they grew their family. In the midst of their struggles and triumphs, there was Tiffany—their outgoing, relentless, joyful, stubborn, first-born child. Listen in to hear a family share memories and revelations as they unpack their intertwined (and parallel) life stories.
The First 17 Years: Don’t make yourself small so others feel comfortable with Kyler Mason
Building a business, when done correctly, should create incredible opportunities for worthy individuals. There is no one more worthy for this next opportunity than Kyler Mason.
Series Trailer: The First 17 Years
If there’s one thing Tiffany has learned in the first 17 years of her journey in building Element Three, it’s that she will never do it alone.
What I’ve learned in the First 17 Years
Sometimes a story needs to be written before it’s finished. Tiffany is ready to share hers.
Q&A: How do you cast long-term vision with limited perspective?
How do you cast long-term vision with limited perspective? This one is for the younger listeners. Whether you’re just starting your business, growing one, or looking into the future.
Q&A: How does community change as you add ‘ands’ into your life?
Q&A: How does community change as you add ‘ands’ into your life?
[REPLAY] Dear 24-year-old self, learning how to grow a business is not the same as knowing how to run one
Lately, Tiffany has been reflecting on her journey in building Element Three (more on that soon…) so this week, we’re featuring a nostalgic replay of an episode from last year. In this episode, Tiffany gives advice to her 24-year-old self in a moment of growth for Element Three. Stay tuned for more next week…
When it’s time for help
What do you do when life is no longer sustainable? How do you know if it’s just a hard time, or you actually need to get help? Whether that means getting professional help or powering through things, Tiffany reflects on times in her life when she had to walk through those struggles. Listen in for tips on how to weather the storm.
Prioritizing careers, relationships, and family with Lindsay Tjepkema
What happens when you have the “ands” of marriage to a partner with a successful career, multiple kids, and owning a startup on your own? How do you keep things afloat, let alone find meaning and the depth along the way? Lindsay Tjepkema, co-founder and CEO of Casted, joins Tiffany to talk about finding encouragement, growth, and meaningfulness in a 2-career and multiple-kid family.
In this episode, Tiffany discusses the vital role sustainability plays in her life of “and’s”, and how she has learned to help her kids have low-conflict experiences before school in the morning to start each day off in the right mindset.
Adding the “and” of being a mom
Some "and's" are out of your control–couples who have experienced infertility and miscarriages know this well. Sam and Brice Johnson join Tiffany for this very personal episode about their experiences with miscarriage and loss.
What if you didn’t get to add the “and”?
Sometimes life dictates which ‘and’ you get to add to your list...or, if you get to add it at all. And sometimes, there is power in deciding what you CAN do. In this episode, Tiffany discusses how the power to choose the ‘and’s’ within your reach can add to your life and empower you to reach your goals.
100 episodes of being Scared Confident, and...
100 episodes. 100 conversations on fear and love and parenthood and leadership and homemaking. And...this is just the beginning. Thank you for joining Tiffany for 100 episodes of Scared Confident. In this episode, she reflects on how she has grown throughout her Scared Confident journey, and what comes next for her and for the podcast.
In this episode, Tiffany discusses the important role sustainability plays in her life of “and’s”, and how she has learned to let go of the physical messes in her life in order to keep her relationships a priority.
17 years of marriage with J.R. Sauder
This year Tiffany and J.R celebrate 17 years of marriage. In honor of the occasion, Tiffany brings J.R. back on the show to reflect on their relationship—where it started, how it’s evolved, and how they’ve grown together.
Thriving, not existing, in your relationship
It takes a team to have a marriage, family, and career. All of it’s possible, but there are wrinkles couples have to work through. In this short episode, Tiffany brings on her husband J.R. to share his advice for thriving in a relationship when you both have careers and a family to nurture.
I am a 10 regardless of what happens with Brian Kavicky
In this episode, Brian–owner of business training skills company Lushin Inc.–shares about I-R Theory, why you may deny that you’re a “10”, and how to solidify your identity in yourself and your inherent worth.
How do I stand tall when asked to be small?
Many women have experienced the feeling of being asked to shrink themselves for the convenience of others. In this Q&A episode, Tiffany shares the practices that help her stand tall in any environment.
I am for others: Choosing where to invest my time and resources
In last year’s “fear journey” series, Tiffany discovered that the core of who she is all comes back to one statement: she is for others. In this episode, we get a glimpse into how this plays out through her investments in Rachel Downey and her business, Share Your Genius.
How do I know I deserve a seat at the table?
In this Q&A episode, Tiffany reflects on her experiences of being a young leader for Element Three. Listen in as she shares the mistakes she sees when young leaders try to “fit in” and gives advice on how to show up best.
Saying “no” to things that don’t matter with Zainab Bass
Embracing a life of “and’s” can be a big transition–there are lots of voices (inside and outside of yourself) that speak into your fears and make you believe you have to pick a lane and stay. But what if you learned to exist in the lanes that matter, and say “no” to the ones that don’t? Zainab Bass joins Tiffany to discuss this topic.
How do I manage working mom guilt?
Guilt is a buzzword. Especially for working moms. But is it in our vocabulary because we actually feel guilty, or is it because it’s what we think we’re supposed to feel? In this Q&A, Tiffany reflects on her debut as a working mom and how she came to her own conclusions about guilt and imbalance.
Turning walls that divide us into art that unites us with Cameron Moberg
In this episode, Tiffany and Cameron talk about the mural he recently painted in the E3 office and its meaning, as well as his personal journey through fear that led him to become a community-focused artist.
Have the courage to claim your gifts
Society tells us we shouldn’t say what we’re “good at”. It’s braggadocios. It’s not humble. It’s presumptuous. In this episode, Tiffany reflects on two moments that made her realize the importance of breaking that cultural norm.
Success loves discipline with Justin Maust
Justin Maust is a certified EOS implementor, keynote speaker, and business coach. He and Tiffany met while he was implementing EOS at Element Three, and in their conversation this episode, they discuss what it’s like to lean into the discipline (even when it’s hard with their quick-start personalities), how they both discovered the “2.0” versions of themselves, and how they’re continuing to learn that slow and steady really does win the race.
Discipline is a choice
In this short episode, Tiffany reflects on her journey towards becoming more disciplined and shares ways she’s made it a part of her mindset.
You can’t outsmart the process with Cat Edmonds
When building a business, knowing where you’re headed is key. In this episode, Tiffany sits down with Cat Edmonds, Sales & Marketing Executive at Blackink IT, to share her thoughts on building the strategy side of a business.
Hard days are the distance days
As the Sauders go through a difficult season of life transition, Tiffany reflects on her mindset during the more difficult days.
A season for "and"
Tiffany shares her journey going from saying “no” or feeling like she has to choose to now embracing what it means to have a life of “and.”
Health is more than looking good with Zach Pello
Tiffany spends 2 days a week lifting and training with her personal trainer, Zach Pello. Zach has a passion for coaching busy women like Tiffany, and in this conversation, he shares his insights on creating sustainable health goals, matching your habits to those goals, and the positive effects of “settling” for moderate goals.
Don't let others’ perceptions control your reality
”You must never see your kids. It must be nice to have in-home care to raise them.” When Tiffany heard this untrue statement, her blood began to boil. In this episode, she reflects on how the perception others have about you can feed fear. Listen as she shares how she works through these moments and her advice for others experiencing similar situations.
Plan your life, then your business with Jenny Tod
”What do I want out of my life?” Many entrepreneurs ask themselves that question while building their business, but do they let it influence their business in a real way? Tiffany sits down with Element Three’s former art director Jenny Tod as she transitions into building her own business, Jenny Tod Creative.
How to survive transition in care
Tiffany shares her experience in transitioning in-home care when their nanny, Mrs. Garcia, retired earlier this year. Listen to the full episode to hear how the Sauders approached and embraced the change.
Don't be afraid of what you're capable of with Ashley Butler
Tiffany is joined by Ashley Butler, founder of MySherri, a home management services company that helps free up more time for relationships in working-parent homes.
Q&A: How do you afford in-home care?
Tiffany gets a lot of questions regarding work, life, motherhood, and balancing it all. Luckily, she’s an open book.
Intentions for 2022
In this bonus episode, Tiffany shares what she is intentionally working towards in 2022.
I am intentionally staying scared
As she embarks on Season 3 of Scared Confident, Tiffany pauses to reflect on lessons learned in 2021. In this episode, she vulnerably shares her thoughts on embracing the good times, identifying how her fears manifest, and how she’s grown by leaning into more ‘ands’.
On the twelfth day of Christmas, Tiffany talks about the New Year
On the twelfth day of Christmas, Tiffany reflects on what 2021 has brought into her life. Listen as she shares her wishes for the Scared Confident family in the new year.
On the eleventh day of Christmas, Aubrey celebrates with family
On the eleventh day of Christmas, Aubrey celebrates Christmas with her extended family. Listen as she shares her favorite parts about getting together with each.
On the tenth day of Christmas, Tiffany prepares for the New Year
On the tenth day of Christmas, Tiffany prepares for the New Year. Listen to hear how they celebrate to make sure the adults and children have fun and fellowship.
On the ninth day of Christmas, Ivy looks for Lulu
On the ninth day of Christmas, Ivy looks for Lulu, the Sauder's Elf on the Shelf.
On the eighth day of Christmasm Tiffany feels expected
On the eighth day of Christmas, Tiffany makes people feel expected in their home. In this episode, you'll hear her describe the benefits of preparing for when you have guests during the holidays.
On the seventh day of Christmas, Aubrey goes to the Christmas Program
On the seventh day of Christmas, Aubrey goes to the Christmas program. Listen as she shares what's so special about getting to participate.
On the sixth day of Christmas, Tiffany pursues experiences
On the sixth day of Christmas, Tiffany pursues experiences more than gifts. During her childhood, it was the experiences she remembers most. Listen as she describes how she prioritizes these moments for her family to make sure they don't get lost in the shuffle.
On the fifth day of Christmas, Ainsley Celebrates Christmas
On the fifth day of Christmas, Ainsley celebrates. In this episode, she recounts her favorite family traditions of Christmas day.
On the fourth day of Christmas, Tiffany puts her kids first
On the fourth day of Christmas, Tiffany strives to put her kids first. With so many people to buy gifts for, sometimes family gets pushed to the back. Listen to Tiffany as she describes how she prioritizes her family.
On the third day of Christmas, Ivy goes to Nana's
On the third day of Christmas, Ivy goes to Nana's house. Listen as she shares some of her favorite memories.
On the second day of Christmas, Tiffany on the Holiday 5
On the second day of Christmas, Tiffany decides what aspects of Christmas she wants to focus on. Listen as she shares how she gives herself grace to not score a ten in each category.
On the first day of Christmas, Ainsley decorates
On the first day of Christmas, Ainsley describes their tradition of decorating their home. Take a listen to hear her favorite part.
Fear Journey: I am intentional with Stewart Ramsey
When Kyle began his fear journey, he had recently experienced the loss of an important person in his life, Wendy Ramsey. She was, in his words, the center of their family. Wendy left an impact on everyone she encountered, inspiring Kyle in more ways than one. Most specifically, prompting him to explore the role fear plays with death. What is her legacy teaching him? And what is it teaching you?
Fear Journey: I am leaning in with Robin Daniels
As the fear journey continues, Kyle Lacy, SVP of Marketing at Seismic, continues to uncover what fear is telling him. Helping him explore the topic is marketing leader Robin Daniels. As someone who has led companies public, Robin understands the pressures and responsibilities that come with impressive titles.
Fear Journey: I am making an impact
In the conclusion of Kyle Lacy’s Fear Journey, we hear him share what he learned and what’s ahead as he reflects on this experience. Are you ready to join him on your own journey? If you’re ready to understand the role fear may be playing in your life, text Tiffany to download a copy of the self-guided Fear Interview. Text the word FEAR to Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Fear Journey: I am at peace with Joe Staples
For Kyle Lacy faith is a loaded word, bringing up negative thoughts and memories. Why is it such a trigger? As Kyle continues on his fear journey, he invites Joe Staples to help him talk through his fear of faith.
Fear Journey: I am a failure
In episode one of Kyle Lacy’s Fear Journey, Kyle goes through his Fear Interview with Nathaniel McGuire, a Life Coach and Family Counselor in Indianapolis, exploring the role fear is playing in his life. From death to his every day, one thing is clear: The narrative is a lie. As we go deeper into his journey, Tiffany joins the conversation unpacking what he’s experienced so far.
Part 1: Fear and Forgiveness with JET
After a childhood of pushing fear aside to survive, JoAnn E. Trudeau chose acceptance. That one decision changed her and her family’s life forever, mending an area of her life drowned in chaos and confusion.
Part 2: Fear and Forgiveness with JET
As life’s challenges ebb and flow, fear can drive you to make decisions you normally wouldn’t. JET and her husband found themselves searching for comfort from the loneliness of their marriage in destructive ways. JET shares her fear journey of forgiveness, personal growth, and faith, which led them to find love in each other again.
Six tips for rolling solo
When you have a two-career home, odds are either you or your spouse will have periods when you have to run the household solo. In this episode, Tiffany shares some survival tips she’s learned to incorporate as J.R. travels for work and she has to temporarily act as a single parent.
What principles guide your parenting?
You can read all of the books on parenting, but when you’re thrown into it, you find your own style that fits for you and your family. In this Q&A, Tiffany shares the three principles that guide parenting in the Sauder household.
Four kids, three businesses, two careers, one family, featuring the Sauder girls
As a working mom, Tiffany gets a lot of questions about how their family's day-to-day runs. Instead of hearing her answers, she invites her four girls to join the show giving listeners a glimpse into their lives from the voices of who it impacts the most - her children.
How do you define success as a mom?
Balancing a career with being a mom has been a recurring theme in Scared Confident. For this episode, Tiffany talks through the difficulty of defining success as a mom. Listen as she identities how she knows she’s succeeded and what that means with each child.
Eat the shit sandwich...
When we have something really treacherous to do, there's a lot of risk. It's going to suck. But it doesn’t have to drag out forever. Listen as Tiffany shares the lessons learned from the book "The Hard Thing About Hard Things" by Ben Horowitz and where they show up in her life today.
Win your day
Are you maximizing the minutes, hours, and days that you’re given? In this episode, Tiffany shares a legendary piece of advice she learned from her friend Mike Keleher, on the importance of getting every bit of potential out of each day. Listen as she breaks down the ways this radical mindset shift has affected her life and the way she leads.
You can’t be efficient with people
Leadership is a slow, inefficient process. Yet, it’s important work that is worth doing. In this episode, Tiffany shares a lesson from Brian Kavicky that has significantly impacted the way she leads.
There is no security in ignorance
Are you keeping people in the dark, believing it will keep them safe? In this episode, Tiffany shares her key takeaway from the book, The Great Game of Business by Jack Stack, on the safety that comes with sharing information. Listen as she unpacks the ways this has affected her leadership.
Truth tells its own story
Do you insist on proving people wrong in the moment? In this episode, Tiffany shares some advice from her dad on allowing the truth to play out–even if it takes longer than we’d like it to.
Perception isn’t always reality with Aman Brar
After two successful exits, Aman Brar, board member and previous CEO of Jobvite, joins Tiffany to discuss the evolution of his identity.
Live Q&A: Building the foundation for your career with Colleen Kelly
Colleen Kelly, an Account Executive at Blind Zebra, reached out to Tiffany for coffee where they discuss the foundation of a successful career. When Colleen read Tiffany’s post about when her fourth daughter was born, not only did the photo of four sisters look familiar, but Tiffany's message about being a mom, a wife, a business person, and a friend were all things she aspired to become.
Hard work is what makes you lucky
In this episode, Tiffany tells the story of something good that happened in her early days as President of Element Three and how her mentor showed her that it’s not just luck, it’s about the hard work and the discipline that put them in a position to be lucky.
Dear 24-year-old self, Your excuses are sacrificing relationships
To conclude this five-part series, Tiffany reflects on what happens to relationships when they are filled with excuses. As she walks through her realization, what are the relationships you might be sacrificing? Text Tiffany at 317-350-8921.
Dear 24-year-old self, Learning how to grow a business is not the same as knowing how to run one
You start a business. You’re selling, you’re making money. It’s exciting. But what happens when you don’t have the infrastructure in place to handle that growth? As Tiffany continues to give her 24-year-old self advice, she walks through her learnings of running and growing her business.
My mother’s relationship with food, Wendy Schwab
Previously on the show, Tiffany talked with Johnna Meyers about her struggle with eating disorders and obsession over body image. Johnna shared that the number one thing that influences a young girl is often her mom's relationship with food and its demonstration. Revisiting this idea, Tiffany sits down with her mom, Wendy.
Dear 24-year-old self, Guilt is a choice and so is fear
After Tiffany had her second daughter, she couldn’t help but feel guilty about returning to work. In her life planning class, she raised that feeling aloud, only for the facilitator to ask her, “Do you really feel guilty?”
Dear Daughter, Who do you want to be?
What started with a basement mess turned into a teachable moment, posing the question: Who do you want to be? In this episode, Tiffany gives a sneak peek into the inner workings of her home as a mother of four girls.
Dear 24-Year-Old Self, Be vulnerable first
In part two of this five-part series, Tiffany talks through the second piece of advice she would give her younger self. Listen as she shares a moment where she first realized that being vulnerable is the first step to harnessing the wisdom and help of others.
Dear 24-Year-Old Self, Learn how to sell
In this five-part series, Tiffany answers the question: What would you tell your 24-year-old self to work on each day? Her first piece of advice is to learn how to sell. Listen to find out why.
The Consequences of Pursuing Perfection with Johnna Myers
When you’re all-consumed with something, it drains you. It takes everything you have and you can’t think about anything else. For 20 years, Johnna Myers listened to the fear and the lies that she would never be good enough and that how she looked defined who she was. Finally brought to her knees, she asked for help and began to untangle her identity from the thoughts and words of others.
Q&A: What's something you wish you could teach others?
Fear is not who you are. It is separate from your identity, and you choose whether or not it takes up any mental or physical space within you. Listen to this episode as Tiffany explains how this realization has helped her move forward.
Q&A: How do you prioritize yourself without feeling guilty?
Prioritizing yourself is a choice, just like feeling guilty. In this episode, listen to Tiffany’s daily routine to ensure she gets what she needs. The biggest takeaway? Figure out your minimums — the basic things you need to feel strong and whole.
Q&A: How many times have you considered giving up or battled imposter syndrome?
Give up. You can’t do this. You’re not as smart as they are… All these lies and more have crossed Tiffany’s mind throughout her career, but she didn’t let negative thoughts defeat her. Instead she took them as a signal for her to recommit — to the team, the company mission, and even her family.
Live Q&A with Abby Parker on Personal Journeys
Abby Parker, COO and Co-founder of Elate, reached out to Tiffany for coffee, and in their conversation they discuss personal journeys. Abby's current situation reminds Tiffany of where she was in her mid-twenties: newly married, running a startup, and wondering, “Do I have what it takes to be successful?”
Q&A: How do you keep one big change from creating a domino effect and changing everything else across the board?
Seasons of change are naturally disruptive, but they don't have to upend everything. When the Sauders undergo multiple life changes, how do they go with the flow? Listen to how clear communication and expectation setting sets them up for success.
Season 2 Teaser: Who is Scared Confident?
In season 2 of Scared Confident, you’re going to hear Kyle Lacy go through a Fear Journey. As Tiffany Sauder explored her relationship with fear in Season 1, similarly, Kyle will have some important conversations with people in his life.
Rise & Thrive: The Great Investment I Made with Lara Clark
Have you stopped investing in yourself? While waiting for her daughter in the gym parking lot, Lara realized her life had become focused on everyone but herself. At that moment, she knew two things: that wasn’t always the case, and something had to change.
Rise & Thrive: Suck It Up, Buttercup with Chris Mills
As a high-performing woman, Chris lived by the mantra of “Suck it up, buttercup” because she believed all high performers do. But in a moment of clarity, she realized she needed help to overcome the trauma and the stigma that was holding her back and embrace her true identity.
Rise & Thrive: Waiting for the Page to Load with Kristi Kaiser
It’s easy to get lost in the things we look forward to. When Kristi realized she was spending too much time waiting for the next page of her life to load, she decided to focus on the process and the moments along the way. By changing her perspective, she began moving forward more intentionally and noticing the beauty of her story.
Rise & Thrive: I Can Do Hard Things with Whitney Dunbar
Throughout her journey to become a high-impact leader, Whitney felt the conflict between her ability to see things differently and her desire to be accepted. As she steps more confidently into her story, you’ll hear how she learned to be more vulnerable, take risks, and be brave in the midst of adversity.
Rise & Thrive: Remarkably Unremarkable with Stephanie Ewing
As a “recovering perfectionist,” Stephanie often finds herself thinking about what she “should” have done or said in a given situation. After years of worrying about what people think, she learned to let go and be okay with not being liked by everyone. Listen as she shares her journey toward self-assurance and peace of mind.
Rise & Thrive: Finding Myself in Motherhood with Holly Pels
Holly often feared she would lose her identity in motherhood. But after three miscarriages, she wondered if she would get to be a mother at all. Listen as she shares her story and how becoming a mom helped her find out who she truly is.
Rise & Thrive: Bad Haircut Blues with Emily Perry
As a child, Emily Perry was bullied for her bad haircut and boyish looks. Now, she is the Founder and Executive Director of Susie’s Place, a child-friendly center for investigations of allegations of crimes against children.
Introducing the Rise & Thrive Series
Rise and Thrive is a subseries of Scared Confident, highlighting the stories of seven women who took part in the Rise and Thrive Experience. Each participant shares how they have been learning and growing throughout the experience. As we share these stories with you, think about how you can stand tall in your own story.
I am for others with Nathaniel McGuire
The journey of Scared Confident started with Tiffany Sauder’s fear interview. To close the season, we asked Nathaniel McGuire to rejoin her in asking the question, "What’s next?"
BONUS: Launch Party + Grace Johnson
One of Tiffany’s major goals with Scared Confident is to give language to fear. But words are not the only way we communicate. To create a visual portrayal, Tiffany reached out to Grace Johnson, former graphic designer at Element Three, and asked her to listen to the first episode with one request: “Paint. Make what you feel.”
Q&A: How do you stay focused on your goals?
It’s hard to stay focused on goals in a world of constant distraction. In this Q&A, Tiffany shares what helps keep her and her goals on track – not abandoning them for the next idea that pops into her head.
Q&A: How do you set your goals?
Goal-setting has never come naturally for Tiffany. She’s had to work it intentionally into the framework of her life. Even if a goal is only a well-educated guess or a dream, once you aim for something, you get a different level of feedback from your decision-making. What else does she think about when setting goals? Listen to this Q&A to find out.
I am pursuing truth with Brian Kavicky
Tiffany asks Brian Kavicky, long-term sales coach, mentor, and business leader, to join Scared Confident. As they reflect on her journey over the years, Brian identifies areas where Tiffany still needs to grow. What’s her take? She’s in pursuit of truth, not comfort.
Q&A: How do you manage, prioritize, and effectively communicate required sacrifices within your family?
In this Q&A, Tiffany describes her family’s process of sacrificing for one another to make space for what’s needed. Not everyone will understand your choices, but as long as your family members do, that’s all that matters.
Q&A: Is it ever too much?
Yes, at times it feels like it’s just too much to handle, but it’s how you deal with it that matters. In this Q&A episode, Tiffany talks through what she does to avoid feeling constantly overwhelmed, which means sometimes you have to say "no."
Live Q&A with Steven and Paige on figuring out childcare
When both parents work full-time and you have young children, deciding what form of childcare you want and can afford can be a tough decision. What’s important to you and what factors do you need to consider?
Q&A: What do you say to women who are contemplating a career change or break for kids?
In this Q&A Tiffany shares what has worked for her when contemplating a career change or taking a break for kids. Ultimately, it isn’t easy, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t possible, especially if you have a clear vision of what you want your future to be like.
Q&A: What does self-care look like for you?
Taking care of yourself is crucial to maintaining your well-being, and it looks different for everyone. In this episode, you’ll learn it’s not about overcomplicating. It’s about listening to your body and finding what works for you.
Q&A: What are non-negotiable parts of your daily routine?
With a household to maintain and a business to run, it can be hard to sustain a routine. But it is possible. In this Q&A, Tiffany shares what parts of her daily routine are absolute musts to help her feel centered and take on the day.
I am part of the problem with J.R. Sauder
To celebrate sixteen years of marriage, J.R. joins Tiffany in reflecting on their relationship and the story of building a life together. As you can imagine, fear has played a role every step along the way
Q&A: How do you manage the mental weight of it all?
Tiffany sheds some light on what it takes to be an entrepreneur and business leader. What’s a guiding principle that helps her address the mental weight of this role? Listen to this Q&A and follow along to wherever you get your audio.
Q&A: How do you decide what gets your time?
As Tiffany reflects on this question, one point emerges: how she answers this question has changed over time. When you listen, notice how she decides what to say no to and the filters she puts opportunities through to protect her time, energy, and capacity.
Values Q&A: Are there any value-minded leaders that you respect and admire?
For our final episode on values, Tiffany answers, “Are there any value minded-leaders that you respect and admire?”
Values Q&A: How do your values guide your professional life?
Tiffany shares how her personal values affect her decision-making in a professional setting in our next episode on values.
I am listening with San Pathak
Joining Tiffany is San Pathak, Chief Operations Officer of Element Three, as they take on the topic of fear and race. We ask you to come into the conversation open. This episode is about building human bridges, not political ones.
Values Q&A: How do your values guide your personal life?
For the second installment on questions regarding values, Tiffany digs into how her values guide her personal life. What comes to mind for you?
Values Q&A: How did you define the values for your life?
For the next four Q&A episodes, Tiffany digs into the questions she’s received on values. Starting first with how she defines them for her life. As you listen to her answer, think about your own.
Live Q&A with Lindsay McGuire on her fears as a first-time mom
The conversation they have explores a myriad of questions, how much space do you let your kids take up in your own life? How do you find the right balance? What does it mean to be more than just a mom? Who is going to help take care of my new baby when I go back to work?
Q&A: What is the one thing you knew to be true five years ago, but life has given you a new perspective?
Tiffany gives a sneak peek into the Sauder family home sharing what they keep on a three-by-five card, ‘don't be right at each other, be right with one another.’ It's a reminder that nobody wins when you're right at each other. The other person has to lose for you to be able to be right.
I am scared of the dark with Mark Caswell
Mark Caswell, CEO of Resultant, joins Tiffany in exploring their earliest memories of fear and how those experiences shaped them as leaders. When Mark stepped into the role of CEO, fear began to challenge his identity and ability to do the job. How did his childhood fears impact his ability to move away from fear into reality? And how do your experiences wrestling with fear shape you to this day? Take a listen.
Q&A: What is the most crucial career advice you would give new moms?
After having a baby, whether it’s your first or fourth, going back to work is an adjustment. As Tiffany shares her experience, she provides insights reminding you to give yourself grace while recognizing new baby demands change as they grow.
Q&A: What is your secret to balancing work, company management, and networking with being a wife and mom?
On this Q&A episode, Tiffany addresses the question of balance, highlighting how she solves for each area that demands her attention and time.
I am not fear
In the first episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany opens the door to her fear interview conducted by Nathaniel Mcguire, a Life Coach and Marriage and Family Counselor in Indianapolis. It's honest, raw, and unedited.
Trailer: I am Scared Confident
You know how sometimes you're afraid to do something, but you do it anyway? That is what Scared Confident is all about. We all are asked to do things we're afraid of and if we allow that first fear to be the thing that stops us, then we will never be able to grant ourselves the life that we all dream up.