What dreams will you grow in 2023?

In this solo show, Tiffany is taking some time to reflect on those "carrot seeds" that she's planted in her life, and why acknowledging your own needs is so important in seeing those seeds sprout. And, Tiffany's 7-year-old Ivy shares a story. Sometimes the most inspiring messages are from the littlest voices. Thanks for listening, and happy holidays!

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"What is that thing that you've planted, watered, tended to, wished for, and know is going to happen...but the people around you maybe can't see it as vividly?"

In this solo show, Tiffany is taking some time to reflect on those "carrot seeds" that she's planted in her life, and why acknowledging your own needs is so important in seeing those seeds sprout. And, Tiffany's 7-year-old Ivy reads a classic children's book: The Carrot Seed by Ruth Krauss. Sometimes the most inspiring messages are from the littlest voices.

Thanks for listening, and happy holidays!

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Tiffany Sauder: I don't think it's possible to get to the end of the year and not think about goals in some aspect or think about dreams or just generally pause and kind of take stock of like, am I where I want to be? Am I where I hope to be? , my seven-year-old daughter Ivy, she's in first grade and still very much learning how to read and they bring home these silly little books.

Sometimes they're named something so weird, like it's about a tooth or something, cuz they're trying to learn different like phonic sounds. And she brought home the most precious little book and I couldn't help but. Pause and reflect on the message. So listen, Ivy will read it to you.

Ivy Sauder: The carrot seed. A little boy. Planted a carrot seed. His mother said, I'm afraid it won't come up. His father said, I'm afraid it won't come up, and his big brother said It won't come up every day.

The little boy pulled up the weeds. Around the seed and sprinkled the ground with water,

but nothing came up Every, everyone keep saying it won't come up, but he still pulled. Up the weeds around it every day and sprinkled the ground with water.

And then one day a carrot came up,

just as the little boy had known it would.

Tiffany Sauder: What is the carrot in your life like? What is the thing that you have planted, that you have watered, that you have tended to, that you have wished for, that you have watched for and in your heart, like you know it's gonna happen. But the people around you or the people who love you the most, maybe can't see it as vividly.

I have definitely had seasons of that in my life, , where I just knew something was gonna grow, but I couldn't explain when it was gonna happen. I just knew I had to keep working, and so I just want this year end message to be an encouragement to you. That if you've planted a seed, if you've planted a carrot seed and you're tending to it and you have hope in your heart, and you have a vision and excitement for what you know it can be to keep tending, don't stop success.

Growth, the fruits of your laborers. It's an, it is not a linear path. It is not one unit of effort for one unit of return. It's a thousand pounds of energy. And then you get one tiny berry, 2000 pounds of energy, and you get one tiny berry and then you get to 10,000 pounds of energy and somehow you get 1 million berries.

I'm mixing all my produce analogies, but you get the idea. It's not linear. So I just wanna encourage you in your dream, in your carrot, keep going, keep dreaming, keep tending. Even if the people around you can't quite see it the way that you can. The other thing I'm just reflecting on right now, my husband and I recently went away for a couple of days, and I.

Prepping my kids for, you know, all the things, uh, who's gonna stay here, what the schedule was gonna be when we were gonna return. And I was getting ready to leave my oldest daughter's room just saying like, Hey, is every you good? Like you feel square? And the last thing she said to me was, have fun, mom.

And for some reason that phrase just like stopped me in my tracks. I don't know that I would've ever told my mom to have fun , but one was that like she saw me as a person who needed to go have experiences of my own. it's important to me that my kids know like I love them so much and I want to help make life.

not difficult for them, but it's important that they know like I have things I need to do too. I have things I want to do. I have things I want to experience. I have places I want to go and fun I want to have, and that's not at the expense of their childhood, but it's to enrich their childhood. And when she says that to me, have fun, mom.

I don't know. It was just like such a moment where I was like, she sees me as a person and. My husband and I, her dad and I, we just need to go have fun and we need to go be people together and they're gonna be okay and we're gonna be better when we get back. And, anyway, I don't know. It was just a really special moment for me to hear her say those words back to me.

And if you're struggling with giving yourself permission to take time for yourself to work out or for yourself, To just have some quiet time or for you and your spouse to go away and do something together. Explain to your kids why. , it's not because I'm trying to make your we hard, like I'm gonna do everything I can so that it feels as normal as possible.

And you have Alexa reminder so that you don't forget your glasses and you know, I'll text you the night before to make sure that you remember you have swing choir early the next day. Like, I'll, I'll help you, but I'm a person too. And this is also my life. These are my years. This is the time that I get to grow and experience and.

Try new things and learn new parts of who I am and what I was made to be. And part of what I was made to be was their mom. Absolutely. And I wanna deliver well in that role, but it's not the only dimension of me. And I think if I've, as I've gotten more comfortable in the call on my life to be, A professional person, , as well as a mom and a wife, and like domestically doing, um, you know, the things in my house.

Well, as I've got more comfortable with that role, I've just tried to, I don't know, like assimilate it more to my kids so that they understand how it fits in the context of our life. Instead of like, mom goes to work, it's this black hole of things that I do and when I'm gone. , you're being watched by somebody and then I'm back and we're a family.

It's like, no, this is all part of who we are and the way we operate. I don't know if that makes any sense at all. Sometimes in podcasting, I wish I had the advantage of your body language to see you either nodding your head or like furrowing your brow cuz you have no idea what I'm saying. But anyway, that's all.

It's on my heart right now. I also went back and listened to. Episode from 2021 when I was setting my plans for 2022, and looked at my goals and I had three of them. One was for content creation to become more of a habit and more connected just to the message and less connected to my ego. And I feel like I give myself like a B on that, honestly.

I'm. Open about how discipline is really hard for me. I have to set a lot of traps for myself to be really disciplined. and I would say I was episodic in that. And, I think I can do better. I know I can do better. I can do better. the second one was to be a better listener. I have big mouth, little ears sometimes.

it's my, more natural state is to talk and not to really sit and. Listen well, and so wow. Another goal was to listen to my husband better, like when he's processing things at work. And not to be like, just not to be mentally distracted, but to be really present for him. And I asked him how I did and he said I didn't do worse.

which is like the sourer version of a compliment, I think. No, he said I wasn't worse. He's like, definitely, he said same to better, definitely not worse. So I'll let him give the letter grade, I guess, on. My third goal was, I had consciousness that I, my schedule is gonna be shifting coming into 2022, and so my third goal was to be more time available for my middle schoolers. So for me that meant just having more flexibility like after school, like after four 15 when they got off the bus.

just home more often in the middle of the week in that way, like getting 'em a snack B here to catch the words that come out of their face when they get off the bus. And I would give myself an A on that, especially the back half of the year. I would say the last six months I give myself an A in the first six months of the year, probably like a.

So I'm getting more comfortable with it. I think I'm getting more systems in place to be able to accommodate it, and it's been good. I feel really close to them right nowUh, my goals for 2023, I'm still working on them. I would say, I know one is I just wanna be intentional about having something fun that I do.

Like for myself, that's not like a productive task, but just like literally something fun. And I have some ideas, but I would say that's one theme that's top of mind. It's probably gonna be a January to do for me. Maybe over Christmas I'll have some time, to reflect, but. Anyways, we are closing out 2022.

We, doubled our downloads this year. and I just wanna thank you guys for coming along on this journey with me. When I started it almost two years ago now. March will be two years, March, 2023. Wild. I had no idea what I was signing up for. I just knew I had things that I needed to work out, and you guys are such gracious listeners and going on this journey with me for everybody who shared it with a friend.

Thank you for everybody who's reached out and said, this is helping. Thank you for everybody who. just gives me their time on a weekly basis. I just wanna say thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you for coming along on this journey with me. It gives my life purpose to be able to export, make sense of things, and share some of what life has taught me with all of you.

So, Thanks for listening. Continue to give me feedback. It really does feed us as creators to know that it, what we're doing matters. And, I'm really excited for 2023 and seeing what it has to bring. So, Merry Christmas, happy Holidays and Happy New Year to you and your family. Give everyone you love the tightest squeeze this season.

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